On having the (metaphorical) rug pulled out from under you and being punched in the stomach on the way down!

[Just a quick background: I shared on Facebook that something had happened that made me feel like "not only had someone pulled the rug out from under me, but that they'd punched me in the stomach on the way down too!"
(While I consciously make my Facebook page a place of positivity and share things I find motivational and handy, I like to keep it real and share the struggle through hard times with the good as well).
When I posted how I felt, another friend commented below that she felt like that every day. I pondered on that one and thought I'd share with her what worked for me in those times. I'd like to share this with you too as I know everybody hurts sometimes]

Dear (Friend),

I'm sorry to hear you feel the way I have felt for the past few days every day. That sucks!

I'd like to share something with you that I find helpful if I may:

I have spent a fair portion of my life being angry with life and even with God. I used to think life was pretty unfair and awful most the time until we were given reprieves, but those reprieves made being thrown back into the mire harder, sometimes I wished it would just stay a level of sh*t so I could bear it, because the down times seemed so much worse when compared to the up times, and I even began to fear the good times because that meant a dive afterwards.

Then I couldn't take that any more because that is NO way to live! All these teachers and gurus talk about abundant lives and I want one too damnit!

So I went searching to find ways it isn't unfair. It's been a long search and I am not there yet, but I can tell you that the biggest thing that has changed for me is my expectation that life should mostly be blissful and never painful.

Now when I am hurt deeply (like I was the other night ) I can breathe into the pain, look for what the situation is showing me and find the blessing and hopefully respond with love rather than anger and go into self defense. Every time something really painful happens I now find it is an opportunity to heal an old wound I had buried and move forward a more whole person. Extremely painful for sure, but worth it even more sure!

I can also see that the person that hurt me was lashing out at the closest/easiest target because she is in a LOT of pain and fear and doesn't know where to put it. That helps me to not only have compassion for her, but it also seriously motivates me further to fix my pain so I don't do that to others unconsciously and - seeing as though nobody gets through life without wounds - perhaps I can help others too with what I've learned!!!

Her words ripped right into me and hurt me very deeply, but they helped me cry over a lot of other things too that were unresolved and release a lot of stored pain. I'm a better person for this experience because I'm determined to use it for my highest good and hopefully help her heal her pain too - that would be an even better result!

We'll see. For me life is now becoming more and more of a choice to dig and damnwell find the lotus growing through the manure. Some days I don't have the strength to keep digging. For those days there's chocolate and good friends or else I can always go spend an hour with my brother's kids who give the best hugs and are SO loving!!!!!

I now view pain as an opportunity to heal (sometimes kicking and screaming for sure LOL), but if I can breathe myself into myself and keep going I can generally unearth the diamond from it.

I think it was Winston Churchill that said you if you halfway through hell, keep going!!! LOL

So I hope you can find your joy, healing and gems in the midst of the muck too!!!

Much love hun <3
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