I recently needed to make a decision that I've been fence-sitting over and I finally got annoyed enough to do something about it. Of course, as I was super annoyed, my first thought (ok maybe my second) was that it may not be best to act immediately when so ticked off about something, but after I'd calmed down I started to question that belief. I mean, why not shake things up and stop being so dreadfully rational and just live a little? Why not take some chances? Why exactly not? I'm not talking about letting a full on rage take over, running off on a rampage and not caring who gets hurt on the way (just fyi ;) 
So why wait to calm down to act? Because I might bite off more than I can chew when making a decision thinking irrationally? If my bite-sized chunk of current life was so easy to swallow and so peachy then surely I wouldn't be angry in the first place, no? So perhaps the anger in itself IS the message! Surely if my life is actually working just fine then why would I be so frustrated? Of course it's more complicated than that as frustration can be for many valid reasons, but perhaps anger is the trigger that sends me on the treasure hunt to find out what the reason may be and what to do about it.
I don't believe that anger in and of itself is intrinsically bad. It's just a signal from your entire being to let you know that something needs looking at. There is always a message for you within anger. Feeling angry is very valid. It’s the squishing of the anger, the fear of it taking over, that makes it bigger than it really is…
"Anger is always a signal from your higher self, that it’s time for a reality check." - Mike Dooley, Notes from the Universe
Anger is a step up on the emotional guidance scale from depression.
It's often only when we're really angry or upset we're finally ready to look at those fears and find a way to overcome them. Anger is often the fuel that gives you the vital oomph and the sudden boost of courage necessary to break through the blocks and actually face things that you have been too afraid to look at (or too afraid to admit you know you don't want in your life.
Nothing ventured nothing gained... Could having a more comfortable relationship with anger actually be used as a tool for healthy change?
The energy of Anger or frustration can be harnessed to give us that little extra oomph to finally look at the things we're afraid of and the determination to get past them... If you feel strongly enough about something to feel angry surely there's a reason for it and it's not just that you're a 'bad' or 'ungrateful' person.
And so what if you fail? At least you tried to change things that weren't working and you know a bit more about what works and what doesn't! Aren't they all ultimately just steps on the journey that gets us there eventually... :) <3
Bonus Link: Famous Failures
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